Relationships: (Article) How to Escape the friend zone 3. (@unn_zuo)

 

Realize that you're "tying up" your feelings by staying friends with someone who isn't romantically interested in you. In the instance where you've already followed the previous steps and you've left your pushover habits behind, you've stepped up to role that he or she is looking for in a relationship, and you've crossed the touch barrier, but this person still wants to be "just friends", you'll need to make some hard decisions. Maybe they're simply not attracted to you, for reasons you'll never know. But you still have feelings for them. Is it wise to continue spending time with them?

Consider that it'll be difficult to develop feelings for someone else if your feelings for this person are fueled every time you hang out. You'll struggle with feelings of jealousy and frustration when that person dates. Consider that even if you do manage to develop feelings for someone else, your heart might always be torn and confused, and it'll be hard to give your new flame your undivided affection.
Sometimes, the best thing to do is to take the friendship down to the level of acquaintance. The person might feel offended, perhaps it will seem as if you don't value them as just a friend, but remember (and explain to them if necessary) that you can't control how you feel, just like they can't control how they feel, and you need to make room in your life and heart for someone who feels about you the way you feel about them.


Warnings
 
Do not obsess over your friend. This will come across as creepy and possibly ruin your chances of ever escaping the "dreaded friend zone".
Don't ever try to get them to break up with a boyfriend /girlfriend. That makes you look desperate, it makes him/her feel embarrassed, it probably freaks them out and makes you look stalker-ish. Its a bad idea.
If you decide to let go of someone who doesn't return your affection, you might find that suddenly they're attracted to you. Be careful, then. This might tell you that they love the "thrill of the chase". If you find they lose interest when you become interested again, you've got a cat-and-mouse game on your hands--not the recipe for a healthy relationship.
Don't give relationship advice to your friend, they will eventually just see you as "one of the guys/girls" always there to give advice, which will throw you deeper into the friend zone!
Making time for them even when you don't have any may help the person realize that you are always there for them, but don't make it obvious that you like them, as it may repulse them and end the friendship.
Just go for it. When the time is right you should spill your guts to them and not beat around the bush. They are your friend and trying to be sneaky about it like you have been is a big red flag. So just tell them casually and see how they feel and act accordingly such as getting sweet fellatio from her since your new found confidence is a total turn on.