Having parents issues? Check this guide for teens to understanding your parents
Parents – there’s no escaping them! You live with them, eat with
them, you sleep in the same house with them. You’ve observed firsthand
what they are like and no doubt have come to the conclusion: parents are
“strange and different”. They don’t talk like you talk. “How in the
world do I get along with these people ?!” you ask.
Getting along with your parents is a very real task you have to face as a teenager. It’s a part of your life, and it has a great impact and bearing on the rest of your life.. How you act and react when you are with your family will determine how you relate to other people in the future.
You may really have your life together when you’re with your friends, but when you get home, it’s crazy. It’s a hair-tearing, plate-throwing, name-calling experience. It’s a mess! And it’s not right because home ought to be where all your training begins and counts.
So what can you do? The answers are as listed and explained below.
1. Listen to your parents
Many people say there is a generation gap in the world today. There is no generation gap – there is a communication gap.
The first step to getting along with your parents is to close up that communication gap. This is appropriate, because you should carry on a lot of conversations with your parents. If you don’t, you miss a great privilege.
Listening to your parents is as easy as closing them out. Do you ever turn off the switch? Your parents start talking and click! You shut them off. What would happen if you had a friend who turned the switch off when you were telling them something important? Exactly! As you train yourself to listen to your parents, you train yourself to listen to others. If you love someone, you are willing to listen to what they have to say. Not listening expresses the opposite. It tells the people talking to you that you think they should shut up or you think their words or thoughts are worthless. Listen to your parents if you want them to listen to you. Do not interrupt them when they are speaking.
2. Entreat your parents and do not rebuke them
First of all, what does it mean to ‘entreat’ and ‘rebuke’? According to the dictionary, to entreat means to persuade by asking and to rebuke means to address in a sharp or severe disapproval. Basically, they both mean to give your opinion or suggestion in the form of a question and to talk back or to correct in a hard way by strongly saying a person is wrong.
Have you ever known your parents to be wrong? Whatever the case may be, they are still your parents and you owe them your respect. When you think your parents are wrong, don’t jump in and start correcting them. A lot of people do that and it doesn’t help situations.
Here’s an example on how to entreat -
Your parents think something should be done a certain way and you think otherwise.
You don’t say ‘Oh, your idea is not good, this is how it’s done’ instead, you say ‘mum/dad, don’t you think it can be done this way?’
You see, this allows them the courtesy to think about your suggestion without feeling insulted. Some people say ‘my parents don’t listen to what I have to say’. One reason may be the way you relay your ideas and opinions to them. The key is to entreat your parents and not rebuke them, even if you disagree with them. Persuade them by asking questions (do not nag). It will be more profitable for you.
3. Obey your parents
You may say “I’m not a child anymore, don’t put that rule on me.” Do you live in your parents house? As long as you are under their care and supervision – you fit in the category called “children”. You are a child in the sense that you aren’t on your own. Obeying your parents is the correct thing to do, even if you think they are wrong or are being unreasonable. Now, naturally, there are some exceptions to that. The one and only exception is the case of your parents asking you to do something that clearly and directly violates the law or your religion. Rarely does this happen so be careful.
The point is this: If you are not obedient to your parents, at a time when you need them to do something for you or give their permission for something you want to do, they will say, “NO”. Disobedience comes with a negative result. Obey your parents, you get a positive result. After all, how hard is it to obey? Obeying is easy, and it’s the wise thing to do.
Remember, you will be parents one day. How would you want or expect your teenage children to act? Think about it but until then, try these and experience the difference
read it HERE
Getting along with your parents is a very real task you have to face as a teenager. It’s a part of your life, and it has a great impact and bearing on the rest of your life.. How you act and react when you are with your family will determine how you relate to other people in the future.
You may really have your life together when you’re with your friends, but when you get home, it’s crazy. It’s a hair-tearing, plate-throwing, name-calling experience. It’s a mess! And it’s not right because home ought to be where all your training begins and counts.
So what can you do? The answers are as listed and explained below.
1. Listen to your parents
Many people say there is a generation gap in the world today. There is no generation gap – there is a communication gap.
The first step to getting along with your parents is to close up that communication gap. This is appropriate, because you should carry on a lot of conversations with your parents. If you don’t, you miss a great privilege.
Listening to your parents is as easy as closing them out. Do you ever turn off the switch? Your parents start talking and click! You shut them off. What would happen if you had a friend who turned the switch off when you were telling them something important? Exactly! As you train yourself to listen to your parents, you train yourself to listen to others. If you love someone, you are willing to listen to what they have to say. Not listening expresses the opposite. It tells the people talking to you that you think they should shut up or you think their words or thoughts are worthless. Listen to your parents if you want them to listen to you. Do not interrupt them when they are speaking.
2. Entreat your parents and do not rebuke them
First of all, what does it mean to ‘entreat’ and ‘rebuke’? According to the dictionary, to entreat means to persuade by asking and to rebuke means to address in a sharp or severe disapproval. Basically, they both mean to give your opinion or suggestion in the form of a question and to talk back or to correct in a hard way by strongly saying a person is wrong.
Have you ever known your parents to be wrong? Whatever the case may be, they are still your parents and you owe them your respect. When you think your parents are wrong, don’t jump in and start correcting them. A lot of people do that and it doesn’t help situations.
Here’s an example on how to entreat -
Your parents think something should be done a certain way and you think otherwise.
You don’t say ‘Oh, your idea is not good, this is how it’s done’ instead, you say ‘mum/dad, don’t you think it can be done this way?’
You see, this allows them the courtesy to think about your suggestion without feeling insulted. Some people say ‘my parents don’t listen to what I have to say’. One reason may be the way you relay your ideas and opinions to them. The key is to entreat your parents and not rebuke them, even if you disagree with them. Persuade them by asking questions (do not nag). It will be more profitable for you.
3. Obey your parents
You may say “I’m not a child anymore, don’t put that rule on me.” Do you live in your parents house? As long as you are under their care and supervision – you fit in the category called “children”. You are a child in the sense that you aren’t on your own. Obeying your parents is the correct thing to do, even if you think they are wrong or are being unreasonable. Now, naturally, there are some exceptions to that. The one and only exception is the case of your parents asking you to do something that clearly and directly violates the law or your religion. Rarely does this happen so be careful.
The point is this: If you are not obedient to your parents, at a time when you need them to do something for you or give their permission for something you want to do, they will say, “NO”. Disobedience comes with a negative result. Obey your parents, you get a positive result. After all, how hard is it to obey? Obeying is easy, and it’s the wise thing to do.
Remember, you will be parents one day. How would you want or expect your teenage children to act? Think about it but until then, try these and experience the difference
read it HERE
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